Ways To Recover From Abuse
- Remembering and acknowledging the abuse
- Grieving over the abuse
- Talking out one’s feelings with a supportive listener
- Overcoming feelings of guilt and shame
- Coming to terms with one’s parents
- Applying Bible principles to change destructive behavior
- Healing unhealthy sexual feelings
- Developing healthy personal and moral boundaries
- Developing a close relationship with God and fellow Christians
Releasing the Past
Memories are usually released over a period of weeks, months, or years. Each emerging memory may bring on a temporary crisis. The Right to Innocence says that at times “you may feel like you are backsliding. You aren’t. You are getting better. In actuality, you have gained the strength necessary to face deeper, even more painful feelings and awarenesses.” With good reason, recovering may temporarily become a person’s all consuming concern.
Some victims find it beneficial to read or hear the expressions of other victims. Looking at family photos, visiting childhood sites, and talking to supportive friends and family members may also stir up memories. Writing about ones’ thoughts and emotions is also helpful. The goal of bringing up memories is to release them so the victim can heal, and move on. Prayer is also a powerful tool at our disposal and equally, if not more so, helpful.
This advice became especially useful to me when I was finally ready to start the process of purging the past and coming to terms with my abuse. Fear was no longer an option for me, it had paralyzed me far too long. I couldn’t bear the thought of further hurting my relationships and risk losing what I most loved.
Don’t let fear continue to overpower you, it’s an unmerciful master that will eventually destroy you.